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“I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that - I don’t mind people being happy - but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down 3 things that made you happy today before you go to sleep”, and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position - it’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!” I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness”. Ask yourself “is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is.” —Hugh Mackay (via t-e-l-e-p-a-t-h-y)

May 26, 20136,542 notes

#yes

You are such an amazing person ily

omg thank you anon, this was really random and unexpected but ily!!!!! <3

May 26, 20131 note

#Anonymous

May 25, 201367 notes

May 25, 2013128 notes

#Prada #S/S11 #Philip Meech #Fashion

May 20, 201396 notes

#Sylvester Ulv #Dior Couture #Fashion #Tim Walker #W Magazine

This post is written by my friend Ella Gibson, who is known for her feminist rants at school, and so for her new segment on my blog “Sassy nd Ella”, I thought it would be fun if she discussed her opinion on the topic of Fashion vs. Feminism. Hopefully this will be the first post in the series, with many to follow (no pressure Ella). I’d like to thank her for writing this piece and also drawing the accompanying images, and she is also designing my blog header at the moment which I’m extremely excited about!

May 19, 201310 notes

May 11, 2013719 notes

#Lisanne de Jong #Viviane Sassen #Dazed & Confused #Fashion #literally how i feel rn

May 10, 2013832 notes

May 10, 201385 notes

#Lisanne de Jong #Viviane Sassen #Dazed & Confused #Fashion

May 7, 2013139 notes

#Marte Mei van Haaster #Comme des Garcons #Pierre Debusschere #Fashion #Dazed and Confused #254forest

May 5, 201330 notes

#here 4 this #only posting viviane andpierre and nick and philip now tbh #Fashion #Viviane Sassen #Numero #Barbara Palvin

“Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.

Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/push up/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.

That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?

The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.” —Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason (via ellesugars)

May 4, 201350,195 notes

#SO FUCKING RELEVANT

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